How can I get my partners to stop using dildos?

Question by bambi: How can I get my partners to stop using dildos?
i noticed that most of my partners prefer dildos. If Im gay then I dont like penis.. I dont get it. Plus a womens orgasm comes from the outside of her vagina not the inside.

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Answer by Scott
First off, women can totally have internal orgasms. I’m sure you’ve heard of the G-Spot, right? Women can have anal orgasms as well. Orgasms can occur from any sort of stimulation, not just clitoral.

That being the case, there are plenty of tools that a woman can use to achieve an internal orgasm. Yes, many of these are phallic in nature (penis-shaped dildos), but they aren’t all that way.

You’re a lesbian so you don’t like men. That’s fine. You don’t like penis either. That’s also fine. There are some feminist lesbians who will reject anything related to men and include the very idea of using any sort of tool that resembles a penis in any way. That’s great, though I’d say a little misguided.

And even if that’s how you feel, that doesn’t mean your partners feel the same way. They don’t have to like men or penises to want to explore and enjoy their sexuality. Maybe they get more pleasure out of an internal orgasm and that’s why they enjoy using a dildo. Maybe they like the feel of being f*cked even if they don’t want to be with a man. Maybe they were with men before they became women and they just don’t know any other way. Whatever the reason, you can’t assume that just because you don’t like something or feel it’s wrong, that they should or do feel the same way.

Take some time to discuss it with them. Let them know how you feel and ask them how they feel. Personally, I’m of the opinion that everyone should take time to explore their own sexuality and find out what they like and dislike before saying that something is wrong. To put down the idea of using a dildo because it resembles a penis without even trying it is, to me, about a closeminded as a straight man who refuses to explore facets of his own sexuality out of fear of being considered gay.

Take some time to think about it, talk about it with your partners, and maybe try things out before you condemn them. It’s your body and your sexuality. Have fun. Explore!

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