Does sex toys really work in the bedroom for married couples?

Question by day_dreamer: Does sex toys really work in the bedroom for married couples?
I’ve never tried to use sex toys in our bedroom before but I noticed every time I mention it to my husband, he’d get excited and just love the idea so much. I guess a little or a lot of play in our bedroom can’t hurt but can it spice things up more for us? What do u think…would this make my bedroom sex more fun with my husband??

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Answer by sheloves_dablues
Gee… do you think if he’s excited about the IDEA of toys that the actual thing might be even more exciting?


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  1. lot's more fun!! especially with your husband. spice is always good in a relationship. Have fun :)

  2. Nothing "works" for everyone...if you are interested in trying some adult toys, then do so...some couples find various toys a lot of fun, and others aren't interested in worst, if you don't like it then don't use it any more...there are various things to try so you might like one thing but not another thing...

    Variety definitely helps keep things from getting in a rut in the bedroom...

  3. Not really...It makes things artificial and not so much fun

  4. Im not married. But, my boyfriend always reacts in the same way when i bring up the topic. So we have tried some things, and we love them. It does ad a little extra spice to things, and I would definitely recommend you trying some.

  5. why dont you find out for yourself?

  6. give it a try. it's all about personal preferance. some couples might love bringing toys into the bedroom and others might not enjoy the idea. your husband sounds open minded so give it a shot.

  7. I think it depends on the couple, the toys, and how they use them.

    For us, we have a great deal of fun with them.

  8. Of course it would. If he's into the idea, then why are you waiting? Why not take the word of your husband before the opinions of a bunch of internet strangers?
    Have you ever used any kind of toy by yourself to masturbate? Just curious. If not, I guess I can see your hesitation. If so, then trust me, it's much more fun with a partner!
    We have a few toys we use once in a while. You have to keep things interesting. Sex should never get routine! There are so many ways to use them...just relax and have fun!

  9. They are a lot of fun IF you both are amiable to them.

    Toys/props dont have to be used all the time, they are just there to add something different.

    Try starting out with "light" things like Bondage tape (for hands, or feet) or a dildo. vibrators are also nice but dont go get some crazy pearled filled rabbit craziness....get a normal everyday one to start.

    I find that just a set of restraints can be used in so many ways....

  10. I introduced my wife to them, and it was definitely a big step up for our "marital relations". The hard part for a guy is picking out something that the woman finds exciting/interesting/erotic. I recommend picking a couple of toys out together so that it's something you both have input into it.

    At first, you should know that the new toy(s) will be a regular in every bedroom performance, but over time, you'll find their place as occasional visitors.

  11. Yes, it can spice up more for you both, when both are enjoying it...


  13. A woman I was with didn't care for toys when we tried them, so guess what? We just didn't use them any more, but we tried it and no harm was done. Go for it and see how it goes. Be adventurous.

  14. Absolutely, and not only in the bedroom, they're fun in the kitchen, living room, patio, where ever you play, they are fun.

  15. I think you should try it. Keeping passion alive in marriage is something that is important (in order to avoid boring, mundane encounters). Give it a whirl!!! Keep you husband interested and have fun with it. You may like it but you won't know unless you try it. :)

  16. Yes. My husband loves to watch me play.

  17. oh yeah it's awesome

  18. My husband loves them because then he doesn't have to put any effort in to getting me off.

    I love them because then I can close my eyes and pretend it's Poopypus on the other end.

  19. Totally. Depending on what sort of toys, you can accomplish all sorts of things. Even something as simple as the specialty shaped wedge pillows to put things at a different angle add a good bit to the fun.

  20. Only if your religion allows them. Christianity does not allow toys.

  21. yes

  22. If you both want to use them, YES!!! Why not take the marriage bed to the next level? :)

  23. The best thing it could do is get you guys to starting talking about sex a little more, exploring both physically and in your minds a little more. Learn to have fun with sex, try things that feel good, try things that don't and never do them again.

    People take sex way too seriously, especially once they are in committed relationships. That when you should have fun, let your guard down and share all those things in you head.

    So, will a toy spice up your sex life? Maybe. If your husband is into it, there is no harm in trying it. You both may love it. The best way to spice things up is use the toy as a conversation starter... did you like it, why or why not? Can you think of other ways to use it? Is there something else you'd like to try?

  24. yes of course. mind you some men get jealous like an ex of mine did. thought id prefer it to him. he wasnt wrong!!!

  25. I'm available for parties.

  26. it is amazing. it makes all the difference in the world. even just the process of ordering them together might lead to a trip to the bedroom. sit at the computer together and check out this site. i have found it is the cheapest place to buy them. have fun!!!